Do You See What I See ? --Bidding past 'adieu' is easier over time

The one I shared a decade with is profoundly standing on his word to walk away and never look back . . . Kudos as it has been more than a year and no connection in this dimension of physical reality on his part.

So on with my life since then. A break-through in cognitive consciousness and spiritual over-hauling came through in small short sentences during lapses into a dream-state where I can figure things out and live life the way I am supposed to, not by what is demanded or even mandated by my ego. I put those short sentences, sometimes even just a series of words, together and found a dissertation to myself, written by myself, in another life, or so it seems to help make time the essence of healing.

I discovered that I really did not bid the past adieu or goodbye as I still holds part of it, quite precious and dear and the secrets I hold, un-told, are what makes me who I am today.

If you found out that honestly loving yourself for who and what you are is so much harder than loving someone else, how would you feel ?

I suppose with new-found friends, hobbies, inner circuits that need tweaking can only be achieved when you pay attention, that being alone without a partner affords you the opportunity. Instead of embracing the alone-ness, we fear the lonliness . . . This scenario of lonliness defined by a transpersonal foundation can only mean when we feel like this it is because our reserve fuel pumps of good tidings for ourselves, has been run dry by the many, many people we helped throughout the year.

The act of kindness was put forth so effortlessly for others that by the time we needed reserves for us to feel good about something, those were gone. It is not wrong to be selfish (keeping all your reserves for you) as long as your self-servings needs to keep the resources and reserves by manipulation and deceipt, don't rob another person of the absolute full potential to meet joy and good tidings within themself !

In my acts of kindness, I give what I can so I still have some left over for me and in my dreams they and he are appreciative so what I see there I can still hold precious seeing them, sensing who they really are without their ego-ic shackles holding them down.

Here is to "Seeing you for who you really are in your dreams" . . . till next time this is,erica~ the enlightenment advisor

P.S. If you cannot make it into your dreamstate due to insomnia, please don't hesitate to research the effects of kava-kava and experiment with your body, this wonderful natural sleep-aid can deliver.

R U really going to say 'adieu' to the past ?

Sometimes no matter how hard we resist bringing the past into our present, it is always there in a song, a dream, a thought, a look on someone else's face-- the idea to keep it in the past sounds effective but if it affected a soul so deep, the past or that special part of it will remain consistent throughout the indisviduals existence.

I have not officially said goodbye to a part of my past AND a very small portion of my being still feels strongly for the one I spent a decade plus with; howver, it is not feasible for him to walk the path we originally chose for he has been steered by a more valuable commodity option. So be it . . . that affect is behind and whats ahead is not known nor dictated by any means of action or in-action. The ball is in a neutral court at the moment and whoever picks it up first decides where it shall be launched next.

In the meantime, the year is winding down somewhat favorably and should improve by the end of next week, alot of hard work and satisfied customers will be pleased their having been featured on any one of the pages at our website EPN, was worth it. We got tons of responses that their traffic increased by 5% and that their profit margin widened by about 15-20% all because we link-exchanged.

The program works and sync_ron_icity on the web is a genius ! We are here to help and my costs to my clients is very inexpensive compared to license-holding clinical therapists. I don't follow the DSM IV so my ways are not maximized by the dollar but rather by the satisfaction in the delivery of suggestuions that people use and find work also. That is the reward. Thank you for your yearly participation in the site of the Enlightenment-psych.net

Have a fabulous NEW YEAR 2011

How about that 'relationship' you two share ?

So did you leave the waste, resolved, undisputed baggage of the old kind of relationship you had in 2009, to start fresh in a new relationship with same person or other in 2010 ?

"I have" said the fair maiden who has always been more than second in the young rogues heart but less than exclusively in the young rogues spirit for the rogue is afraid of committment. They both decide, in a union stronger than any physical closeness, that terms must be defined and no pressure, just communication, must be exercised faithfully. The rogue plants the most delicate kiss upon the lips of the only fair maiden that can reign in his true court to what is desired between them and seals their pact with a firm gleam, staring into her shining eyes 'the windows to her soul' and promises (a rarity) this time to keep this quite precious between them ..."

When feeling like you must attack and defend, reveal and surrender to the intricate details of what strong communication brings to even the weakest of relationships between two fairly sentient individuals. It is difficult to 'open up' leaving your 'rawness' unprotected but that is what risk-taking is about; however the risk should be well-known before attempting to go in blindly so as not to point fingers at someone should the outcome NOT be the one you anticipated.

Is the relationship where it ought to be right now ? If not don't steer away from talking, just do it. The truth is far better received from deliverer than 'through the grape-vine' or under speculation or suspicion . . .

till next time

the enlightenment advisor

When the feeling extends past christmas eve . . .

For many this time of year brought in new light to old situations and rejoicing was done hours after the holiest night of the year when biblically the child of god was born, had been dutifully celebrated. But what of the extension of that feeling in action and words from the heart that go well past christmas and on into the new year ? Looks good to me from where I am sitting as the extension of the night of profound love doled out its tests and remainded true when this day I saw your face bright, shiny and new ! Smiling to greet and make merry meet our hearts became one in a skip of their beat . . . I love you my special 'best time' !

Here are my virtual presents to you.

SheffieldsSherry
VERSUS
HarveysSherry

To MEDITATE on DOWNTIME-- orig composed May 19, 2008 10:17 PM EDT

When I feel 'idle-time' is upon me, I embrace it and try to become as unified with that part of the collective consciousness as possible. What I mean by this is that I 'go into' something very deeply. Might it be an idea, a song, a chapter in a book I am reading, or a character observation from a movie or television show. I find the melding of images valuable. I take stock of my compartmentalized memories, sometimes abstractly but always with purpose, and use those to teach me during my 'downtime' about beating stress. A time where better learning can occur sort of like an ebb out into the flow of seducing calm, chaos gurgles down the drain.

When I close myself off from the rest of the egoic reality I am so used to being embroiled in and step away, I am freer. Freer to roam in unknown places, perhaps even into other dimensions if my imagination and belief is equally strong at the time of thoughtful departure.
A past-time I find soothing during 'idle-time' is cloud watching (weather-permitting) or star gazing; each provides a feeling of complete insignificance while being significant at the same time, our existence that is so overlooked or taken for granted. It is in these times I cherish my capacity for small worth when shackled exclusively to the ego but look to the 'idle-time' that proves my true growth of great potential time and time again !

What do you like to do in your 'down-time' ? What is your favorite past-time that offers a make-over of sorts and brings on the sense of accomplishment ?

Ever thought of this as an 'avenue' of self-exploration?

Look at any table in your home, more specifically the most-used table surface. Not for dust but rather for evidence of how we may or may not organize the rest of our lives based on this mere observation. Okay the dining room table, living room table or better yet--the kitchen table.

What state is it in ? I don't mean the state address where you receive your mail at but what condition is the table in ? And I don't mean scratched, worn, shiny and high polished but what is all over it ? Is it neat with a simple vase in the middle or some equally appealing centerpiece? or maybe a simple place setting for six?

Or perhaps it is a little more cluttered, in a bit of a disarray with some unopened mail and a few papers maybe a newspaper ? Or is it a collection of unopened mail, opened mail, remotes for tv's, salt, pepper, doo-dads, knick knacks, writing instruments but almost never found any paper to write on ???? Your probably asking by now what the heck does this have to do with an 'avenue for self-exploration' ?

Right ?

Well the state of your most used piece of furniture, specifically in this case the table, has a mirrored reflection of who you are as far as organizing or not other facets of your life. This for some is hard to understand because they are so disprganized any sense-stirring article about organization escapes their mental construct. Ah, the state of the table defines the mental construct when perceived as an avenue of exploration. How is my life represented in the way I arrange my table or abuse its presence for a myriad of 'stuff'. Is my life, your life, the same as that table ?

Yes or no ?

What really is the 'intelligent design' ?

For something unique on this transpersonal rode I am walking, I discovered dialogue with the unseen is rather important as well as prevalent. I don't mean just communicating with living and breathing people on a deep intellectual level, I am discussing communication with those that have passed over. I am writing about examples in nature that just are as they were intended but adapt with every passing moment.

I am convinced a residual energy that after the physical host dies, one that maintains the former host energy as close to what it left sticks around or moves around; therefore making it possible to demonstrate reactions to emotion, intend harm, wreak havoc in illogical ways, these being things only living humans should be able to do but not the dead can do it also.

All of these things are prime examples to me that existing is eternal. Just because the physical form dies, gets buried, and returns to dust, it does not imply that what left the body disguised as a vapor, a shadow, a mist, a knock or any out-of-the-ordinary thing that the dead should not be able to do happens- did permeate dimensions, proving 'life' is eternal.

But life changes in form, definition, character, and becomes part of which we do not understand nor maybe even cannot fathom for certain authoritative thinking patterns we are used to using keep us from this thought. In that change, unfortunately organized religion tends to be repsonisble in part for discouraging the thought of eternal life, something must give. Something in the cognitive construct of man, woman and child must be altered so we too, as the human race, may be placed in the greater positive affirmation of the cosmic intelligence and order and not be shunned for just staying human, stuck in the box, and habitually hoping for something better . . .

Do you understand what I am talking about ? (earth bound after death is okay . . .)
but would you not rather be void of fear knowing you can excel earths limitations and travel cosmically because energy flows wherever it can, or wants, or does, or doesn't ?

So, your wondering what does this all have to do with the intelligent design ? Well, as I headed into my mini-vacation away from product-selling and marketing, I went into my psyche that leaps out of the earthly prison my ego embraces and I soar back to a solar system conference hall where me and many other beings congregate to learn about ways the human race can move forward into peace through and from PEACE. But in order for anyone to take this need seriously someone has to come forward sounding as if they have little regard for organized religion or anything begining with the word federal, that would be me.

I see a real opening here to disclose that when I sleep I travel. I go back to ancient roots of a civilization way far away from this one and vastly different in cognitive constructs, behavior and attitude toward the unique race they are. As a human of the creator's intelligent design, I have failed in understanding for so long my purpose. There is a stirring in my soul, with the academic encouragement behind me in four years of baccalaureate studies, four more in masters plus four more thrown in for good measure totaling twelve years dedicated to personal research. I found myself and combine my efforts to comprehend the meaning of life and the continuity of existence.

Now I know and I cannot keep quiet about it anymore . . .